Going through a romantic breakup can be very distressing, and it ain’t an easy experience for anyone. However, things tend not to work out for some partners, which eventually leads to a breakup.
No matter how the relationship ended, there are surprising things that tend to happen after the breakup. For instance, your ex-boyfriend starts calling and texting you perhaps after a few weeks, months or even years, and his key message is that he misses you and wants you back.
This might come at a point when you’ve already moved on and you already have a new boyfriend, or you could have decided to take a break from relationships as you try to heal your broken heart.
However, making a decision on whether you should give him a second chance can be a very complicated process.
So, if you’re in such a situation, you could be wondering what you need to do. Well, there are certain things that you need to consider before getting back together with your ex-boyfriend.
In this, I am going to delve deeper into some factors that will help you decide whether you should accept your ex-boyfriend back after he dumped you.
Things You Need To Consider Before Giving Your Ex Another Chance
How long had you been together?
It is important that you put into consideration the length of time that you two were together. It would be easier to work out things in a relationship that had lasted for years than one where you had been together for just a few months.
What’s more, if you had been with him for just a few months and fighting always seemed to be the order of the day, that could be an indication that you two were incompatible. Fighting among couples is inevitable, but when it happens too often, something is not right. All in all, the duration of the previous relationship is a key factor that you need to consider.
Why did he dump you?
The first thing you need to do is to ask yourself why he dumped you. It could be he dumped you for no apparent reason, but all the same, it would be important to find out the reason as to why he dumped you.
Getting to know the reason you were dumped helps you to make an informed decision on whether the relationship will last or whether it will be another round of fights and disagreements.
For instance, if you’re ex-boyfriend dumped you because he thought you did not satisfy him sexually, it is possible he might still feel the same way if you get back together and the relationship might not be fulfilling, nor last for long.
Regardless of the reasons he will give you, it is advisable that you put into consideration all those reasons before you decide to give him a second chance so as to ensure you are not running back into a relationship that will fail a second time.
Will you be able to trust him with your heart again?
Being dumped can be a very painful and agonizing experience, particularly when you thought he could become your life partner. Betrayal can result in feelings of distrust and anger, and it is important that you first deal with those feelings before giving him another chance.
It is also important to note that trust is a key component of any relationship, and it would be difficult to have a peaceful union if you’re not able to trust him again.
Do you vibe well with his personality traits?
Being crazy in love or even just very attracted to someone is one thing, but if you don’t get on with a number of their personality traits then it is likely to cause a problem in your relationship.
Was there friction between how you and he say the relationship? Does he have any personality traits that you can’t accept? If there are and he’s willing to work on them then that is certainly a positive sign. If he’s just so stubborn that he refuses to change then this could be a problem. Stubbornness is a trait that many people seem to have in varying degrees and is very typical of Aries or Taurus men. However, with a little maturity, he should be open and willing to accept that he may need to lighten up a little on the bull-headedness.
In my opinion, anger is definitely a trait that needs to be addressed in order for two people to have a happy and healthy relationship.
Is he seeing someone else?
Another important thing that you need to find out before giving your ex-boyfriend another chance is if he has another girlfriend. Well, it would really help to consider how the other relationship is likely to influence your relationship should you get back together.
For instance, how will seeing them talk to each other affect you? Will feelings of jealousy affect your relationship? It would also be important to find out why they broke up with that other girl.
If he’s been staying in contact with you then it’s more likely that he is not seeing someone else, although this is not a definite thing. It is also entirely possible that he is seeing another woman but is still thinking about you and missing you. Here are some more reasons why your ex boyfriend is staying in touch with you.
One way you can find out if he is seeing someone else is to simply start a conversation with him over text. Before long you will likely pick up if he is seeing another woman by how he responds to you. However, if you’re still not sure then you can ask him directly. after all, it is perfectly natural to ask your ex how they are doing and what they are up to after the two of you have broken up.
Have you moved on?
If you had already accepted that it is over, chances are you might find it difficult to give the relationship another chance, particularly if it’s been months since you two broke up. So, if you had already erased him from your mind and life, you might want to think hard if it is worth giving him another chance more so since he had decided you are not the one for him. However, if you still love him and you feel that you want to take the risk, why not?
In addition to the things I have mentioned above, it would also be important to find out the reasons why your ex-boyfriend wants to come back to you, and whether you two will fit into each other’s life.
Finally, making a decision on whether you should take your ex-boyfriend back after he dumped you can be a daunting task, but I am sure that it will be a lot easier if you put the above factors into consideration.