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How Guys Fall In Love With Women

How Guys Fall In Love With Women

lovers having a picnicLove is known to make both men and women experience intense feelings, but how men and women fall in love is quite different. What’s more, the adage “Men are from Mars women are from Venus” couldn’t be truer.

If you’re looking to attract a man into your life and you do not know where to start, it is imperative that you first and foremost get to understand the phases of how men fall in love. It would also be important to understand that unlike women who approach love from an emotional angle, men approach love rationally. To find out more about these phases, please continue reading.

Phases of How Men Fall in Love

Image is everything

The first thing men take notice of before deciding whether or not it is right to give their heart to a woman is her physique. Yes, you heard me right. Guys are considered to be highly visual and they tend to focus a lot on a woman’s physical attraction. However, it is important to note that what attracts one man to a woman is not necessarily what will attract another man to the same woman.

What I am trying to say is that one man may fall in love with you because of your eyes or your figure, but another man may fall in love with you because of your legs, hair or even smile.

He wants your attention

The second phase of falling in love after getting satisified with your physical looks, is trying to get your attention. What I mean by this is that once a man is drawn to you by your looks, he now tries to woo you by probably asking you to go out on a date with him, or just making sure you see more of him each day. However, it is important to note that a guy will not keep chasing a woman forever and he will normally give up on a woman once he realizes she is not interested in giving him the attention that he is looking for. What’s more, he continues with his search of looking for a woman who will give in to his advances.

It’s time to impress

Phase three is all about creating an impression. Once the woman has shown interest in the guy, he now tries to enchant her so that he can win her heart. For instance, he tends to engage her in interesting activities, he might spoil her with gifts, taking her for dates in exotic restaurants, or even dress in a manner that will impress her.

During this stage, the man is not necessarily in love with you, and what he is basically trying to do is to win your heart before he can take the next step.

He needs a conviction

Men are indeed very interesting when it comes to love because they are considered to be highly logical more than emotional. It is at this phase that guys start believing that a woman is special, though they might still want to be sure or test whether she has fallen in love with him.

In other words, he has started developing feelings for you, but he will hold them back until he can be able to ascertain if you truly like him and whether you are willing to spend the rest of your life with him.


During this phase, the man has now confirmed that you are deeply in love with him, but the downside is that he is yet to be sure if he really wants to be in a relationship with you. This is because all along he was focusing on getting you to give him attention and then love.

So, a man will wait until you have fallen in love with him so that he can start thinking whether he should or should not be in a long term relationship with you. It is important to note that he will require a lot more time to weigh the pros and cons of having you as his girl versus looking for better options.

Cupid strikes

This is certainly the last stage, and it only happens if a man decides that indeed you are his right match and that it wouldn’t hurt if he made you the love of his life. What’s more, if he sails through to this stage it means that he is ready to commit himself to you and be faithful to only you until death do you part.

On the other hand, if he starts acting like he is confused or disinterested, that is a sign that he wasn’t convinced that you are the right girl for him.


From the phases above, it is evident that a guy will not normally fall in love with a woman before he is convinced that she is head over heels for him. What’s more, even after he is certain that the woman wants a future with him, he tends to take his time in deciding whether he should fall in love with you or not. It can be an annoying cycle, but well, that is just how men fall in love.

It is important that you keep your cool and protect your heart by not expecting too much from a guy. It would also help to play hard to get though not for too long, as you wait to see what unfolds.

The Reasons Men Fall Out of Love

The Reasons Men Fall Out of Love

a couple holding hands in loveMany couples across the world go through romantic breakups despite their initial desire for a long life together. Romantic breakups are unavoidable, and when they happen they tend to cause a lot of sadness, shame, anger, and a myriad of health problems such as depression, insomnia, or even broken heart syndrome.

Having said that, there are various reasons why people fall out of love, but I’m particularly interested in why men fall out of love. Well, there are many marital or relationship challenges that make men stop loving the woman they hoped to spend the rest of their life with, which include poor sexual relationship, misunderstandings, lack of loyalty, just to mention, but a few.

In this article, you are going to gain insights into some things that women do that cause men to fall out of love with them.

Tips on Why Men Fall Out of Love

Pretending to be something you are not

One sure way of pushing yourself out of a man’s heart is pretending to be a person you are not. Pretending to be intelligent, smarter or honest than you really are in order to please a man is never a good idea because things will not look good once he finds out that you have been lying to him. He is definitely going to be unhappy, and that relationship will not last.

Being Needy

Neediness is a turn off for many men, and unfortunately, it is a quality that most women display especially towards their men. It is important to note that neediness can wreak havoc on your romantic relationship, and it manifests itself as nagging, clinginess, self-centeredness, desperation, or talking too much. No man wants to be in a relationship with a needy woman because it can be very frustrating, and that will definitely make him pull away.

If you have identified neediness as a problem in your relationship or if your boyfriend has directly told you that you’re being too needy then our post on overcoming neediness in a relationship may help you.

Lack of respect

It is every man’s desire to have a woman who respects him regardless of his strengths and weaknesses. When a man feels that the woman in his life is not showing him the respect that he deserves, then he is likely to pull away. Some of the ways that women tend to disrespect their men include constant criticism, not listening to what their men have to say, failing to compliment and acknowledge good actions and hard work, and not showing them acceptance.

You stop taking care of your appearance

You will agree with me that most women are always very keen on their appearance during their initial stages of a relationship. Most women will often ensure that their hair is well done, that they have makeup on, or that they look physically attractive by exercising regularly and dressing appropriately for the man that they love.

However, as time progresses’, doing these things becomes less of a norm and it is at this point that men tend to pull away when they stop seeing what attracted them to a woman.


There are various money problems that would make a man stop loving a woman. One of the problems is materialism, whereby a woman tends to value money over her relationship with the boyfriend or husband. It is important to note that materialism will definitely create unhappiness in your relationship, and if you push the man in your life to do things he cannot afford to do to an extent of going into debt, then he will not stay with you for too long.

Ignored or unmet needs

We all have certain needs that we always hope our spouses or partners will be able to fulfil. Well, men will fall out of love if they are in a relationship with a woman who is not able to fulfil or satisfy their needs. It is important to find out or take notice of the things that your man often desires and then try as much as possible to fulfil them. For instance, unfulfilled sexual desires could make your man pull away. Therefore, to avoid pushing your man away, it is imperative that you are keen on what he needs and doesn’t need. In other words, go out of your way to do what will make him satisfied.


There are many reasons why men end romantic relationships, but I hope the reasons that I have discussed above will help you gain insights on areas that you need to improve on in order to have a happy and long-lasting relationship with your man.