Love is known to make both men and women experience intense feelings, but how men and women fall in love is quite different. What’s more, the adage “Men are from Mars women are from Venus” couldn’t be truer.
If you’re looking to attract a man into your life and you do not know where to start, it is imperative that you first and foremost get to understand the phases of how men fall in love. It would also be important to understand that unlike women who approach love from an emotional angle, men approach love rationally. To find out more about these phases, please continue reading.
Phases of How Men Fall in Love
Image is everything
The first thing men take notice of before deciding whether or not it is right to give their heart to a woman is her physique. Yes, you heard me right. Guys are considered to be highly visual and they tend to focus a lot on a woman’s physical attraction. However, it is important to note that what attracts one man to a woman is not necessarily what will attract another man to the same woman.
What I am trying to say is that one man may fall in love with you because of your eyes or your figure, but another man may fall in love with you because of your legs, hair or even smile.
He wants your attention
The second phase of falling in love after getting satisified with your physical looks, is trying to get your attention. What I mean by this is that once a man is drawn to you by your looks, he now tries to woo you by probably asking you to go out on a date with him, or just making sure you see more of him each day. However, it is important to note that a guy will not keep chasing a woman forever and he will normally give up on a woman once he realizes she is not interested in giving him the attention that he is looking for. What’s more, he continues with his search of looking for a woman who will give in to his advances.
It’s time to impress
Phase three is all about creating an impression. Once the woman has shown interest in the guy, he now tries to enchant her so that he can win her heart. For instance, he tends to engage her in interesting activities, he might spoil her with gifts, taking her for dates in exotic restaurants, or even dress in a manner that will impress her.
During this stage, the man is not necessarily in love with you, and what he is basically trying to do is to win your heart before he can take the next step.
He needs a conviction
Men are indeed very interesting when it comes to love because they are considered to be highly logical more than emotional. It is at this phase that guys start believing that a woman is special, though they might still want to be sure or test whether she has fallen in love with him.
In other words, he has started developing feelings for you, but he will hold them back until he can be able to ascertain if you truly like him and whether you are willing to spend the rest of your life with him.
During this phase, the man has now confirmed that you are deeply in love with him, but the downside is that he is yet to be sure if he really wants to be in a relationship with you. This is because all along he was focusing on getting you to give him attention and then love.
So, a man will wait until you have fallen in love with him so that he can start thinking whether he should or should not be in a long term relationship with you. It is important to note that he will require a lot more time to weigh the pros and cons of having you as his girl versus looking for better options.
This is certainly the last stage, and it only happens if a man decides that indeed you are his right match and that it wouldn’t hurt if he made you the love of his life. What’s more, if he sails through to this stage it means that he is ready to commit himself to you and be faithful to only you until death do you part.
On the other hand, if he starts acting like he is confused or disinterested, that is a sign that he wasn’t convinced that you are the right girl for him.
From the phases above, it is evident that a guy will not normally fall in love with a woman before he is convinced that she is head over heels for him. What’s more, even after he is certain that the woman wants a future with him, he tends to take his time in deciding whether he should fall in love with you or not. It can be an annoying cycle, but well, that is just how men fall in love.
It is important that you keep your cool and protect your heart by not expecting too much from a guy. It would also help to play hard to get though not for too long, as you wait to see what unfolds.